*Pardon the generalities used when referring to women and men, I understand that they don't apply to all but it's easier to explain it in that fashion.
*Also pardon my deep philosophical ideas here, if you don't get it or have questions, ask me...
Concept 1: Language is a patriarichal creation. Words were created by men and therefore are good at expressing their (men's) ideas. However, because this is something created by a man, women are left out of this loop and are not always represented in words. For women, language is not essential if you can reach someone with your eyes. Sometimes, a pre-linguistic feeling can be powerful, adding a word to that feeling can cheapen it by putting it into a tidy little box with a label. For example, female telepathy. Sometimes, women can exchange thoughts with other women and sometimes men, without saying anything. It's something that comes from another realm and is beyond words. Being forced to say it out loud means that you don't have the connection with that other person you would like to have and therefore must say it in the only way that you are able to connect. There is power in the words we don't speak.
Concept 2: The philosopher, Ari Bergson discusses the idea of la duree (the duration) which I feel is extremely true and pertinant to understanding life in general. This is my theories of what he has to say and how I preceive them to interact with us every day.
Bergson's theory says that time is not a linear thing, you don't start at 8am and end at 8pm like a line. Rather, time is like a snowball and as you progress through it, you are constantly drawing on, learning from, and adding to the future by your present/past experiences. This idea creates the understanding that the same action doesn't always create the same reaction in you. How we handle the situation now and the exact same situation in two years may be different. This is because our impressions vary from moment to moment and we can never experience anything in the same fashion as we did just minutes before.
This theory means that the idea of emotional baggage is real. However, the efforts we make to get rid of emotional baggage are a war to never be won. We are always going to carry that with us and it will always play a role in our reality. We must learn to acknowledge that "It's over, but I'm carrying it with me."
The idea that we don't live in our physical reality at all times is essential to understanding Bergson's theory. Sometimes we live simply within our own mental realities and these are just as real as anything else. This mental reality can be called "it". Whatever "it" was and is, is our personal property and no degree of language will ever be able to accurately give that experience to someone else. "It" will always be yours in it's entirety.
The snowball effect creates no lines between the past, present and future and forces us to live all of them at once. Because of this, there is no next step and certainly no next step as we like to conceive it.
