This is what was written to me today by the individual who I disappeared on (the first divorced man I ever dated)...very interesting...
"Well, I can't deny that divorced men come with their share of scratches and dents. Some men recover. Some men don't. I'm a different person than I was when we dated. On a tangent -- there;. I said it. We dated. that's the one thing I wanted to tell you at Q's party -- that I've realized that I didn't acknowledge the extent of our relationship. I was afraid of getting attached to you, and I thought by not calling our relationship what it really was, I wouldn't get attached.
"Oddly enough, I got attached to you anyway. I've learned a lot about myself since we dated. I did a lot of work in trying to figure out some of my shit. I don't have it all figured out, by any means, but I know more about myself than I used to. Getting that knowledge led to a lot of
changes in me -- so much so that the gang started calling me "Joe 2.0"
"Many divorced men blame their ex-wife for everything, get all bitter and shit, then fail to take responsibility for their own actions. I realize that I closed myself off to the ex, and to you. I used to think I built the wall around myself to keep other people from getting in. That's not quite true. I built that wall to keep myself in. The other problem is that many men aren't trained in self-discovery. They've probably spent their adult lives hiding from feelings. I realize now that I did that shit. I try real hard not to anymore."
